To continue with what I was writing about yesterday, incorporating RDI into our everyday lives is proving to be a challenge. I find myself thinking about every word that comes out of my mouth, and my thoughts range from "I'm not sure if what I just said was really "RDI-like" and I feel like I use the same phrases all the time." to "Shoot! I really should have not phrased that as a question (or made a demand). I should have made that a declarative statement." So really the best it gets at this point is an attempt to change the way I say things, and being pretty doubtful that what I'm saying is in any way effective. Perhaps I really should just opt for silence.
Another thing I have a great deal of trouble with is keeping my cool with Sam in situations where he's doing something (or not doing something) that needs to be done, like on a time deadline. This morning we were about 10 minutes away from bus pickup, and he was taking his time with packing his backpack, and getting his coat on. He wanted to put his coat and gloves on before packing the backpack, he was walking around touching all the door casings (something he just started doing recently), and just not being mindful of the time. (Like he ever is- I'm realizing as I write this that last year it would have been unheard of for him to even approach doing any of these things- so what do I have to complain about?) Anyway, this is the very thing I mean, I have trouble keeping my cool when things need to get done, so I grabbed his backpack and packed it myself. I wonder if this made him feel bad, since he has been packing his backpack himself. I only realize these things in retrospect, so I really need training in how to keep my cool in these situations.
It's hard to put everything you say and do under a microscope. I tend to be my own worst self-critic, so I am finding fault with lots of my attempts at communication. I guess I really need to live the whole "It's a marthon, not a sprint" philosphy. How could 6 years of one way of communication possibly be replaced overnight by another way?
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