Showing posts with label School. Show all posts
Showing posts with label School. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

A day in the life......

Ok- so the "once a week" writing thing hasn't worked out as I had planned, but I hope to be better about it in the future. I thought it might be fun to write an entry about what our typical days are like here at the Dougherty house, from the point of view of what goes on in Sam's life, of course.

We usually get up around 6AM- Sam is buried under blankets and stuffed animals and usually wakes up talking a blue streak (which we are trying to tone down a little bit these days). We all hang out down in the living room, drinking our juice and coffee, watching the news and weather, and reading the paper (when it shows up early). I prepare Sam's breakfast (these days a corn muffin, yogurt and applesauce) and then his lunch. Sam eats breakfast while watching "Max & Ruby" on TV, and usually while drawing or writing one of his numerous books. Sam washes up, brushes his teeth and gets dressed after this, then he goes downstairs to pack his backpack. He usually has a few minutes of free time before the bus comes. Jack the bus driver and Pam the bus aide pick Sam up about 7:25 for the 45 minute ride to Rotterdam. The school day starts off with breakfast, then the class meets for some circle time. This year they've been doing "centers", a different activity with each of the aides (Jim, Sandy and Stacy), the social worker (Angie) and their substitute teacher (Mrs. Conlon). Sam has been bringing home reading comprehension exercises that he does in school- read a story, then answer questions about it, and draw pictures relating to it. He has math tests in school, and usually brings home math homework each night. He enjoys gym the best of all the specials, although he often talks about the songs they sing in music. They have free time at the end of the school day that they have "earned" through good behavior. He usually arrives home around 3:15PM. The bus rides so far this year have been uneventful, and he's handling the distance and time on the bus well. Usually when he gets home from school, he wants a snack of some type, and he goes on the computer for a timed 15 minutes, or continues writing his book started in the morning, or watches a taped TV show from earlier in the day. Sometimes we'll drive to visit friends somewhere or walk to the library, or ride bikes. He usually does his homework right before dinner- it generally takes him about 5 minutes! He sometimes helps with preparing dinner or setting the table. Dinner is around 5PM. I'm happy to say his food preferences have matured somewhat. While he still mostly eats a seperate meal from what we eat, he now eats most kinds of fruit and a few vegetables. We are stressing the point that "big 8 years olds eat the same thing that their parents eat at dinner!", since he's been on a kick lately telling us the kinds of things 8 year olds do, in anticipation of his 8th birthday in March. After dinner he has 15 more minutes of computer time, then we often play a game or go for a walk. Bedtime is usually around 7:30, sometimes later. Lately he's enjoying having me read to him from "The A to Z Mysteries"- chapter books about 3 friends who solve mysteries that crop up in their small town. He almost always goes right to sleep, listening to NPR and thumbing through books.

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Kindergarten so far

Just to bring people up to date, Sam started kindergarten in September 2006. The transition was about as difficult as it could have been. We weren't prepared for how hard things were going to be and how many different strategies would have to be implemented. Right from the start the teachers and staff at his school were very eager to help and come up with a plan to make it work. They kep assuring us that they would work it all out, and of course we did whatever we could to help them along.

It took awhile, but by mid-November, things started to improve. Sam was given a regular schedule of sensory "breaks" during the day so he could take a breather, and have some down time. He was pre-set for regular activities during the day and also for when changes to the routine were going to happen. He started to respond to these interventions, and had a fairly smooth time of it from December-mid February.

Sometime around Valentine's Day, things started to deteriorate again. At first there were minor problems- he was non-cooperative, he was screaming out at various times during the day, he didn't want to do his work. During February there were 2 1/2 snow days, then February vacation, then his birthday on March 4. Since the return to school after the break, things have gotten steadily worse. His episodes of screaming and throwing objects have increased dramatically, culminating in the episode yesterday where he threw a pencil box (it appeared to be deliberate) at the teacher and hit her.

Of course I am deeply concerned about these "outbursts". I am saddened, frustrated and confused about why this is happening. His "fits" seemingly come out of nowhere- but we all know practically that this isn't the case. Something has to be setting him off, and he has to be receiving a huge payoff for it to constantly be reinforced. I feel as if I'm failing him in not being able to come up with an effective strategy to help him manage his behaviors.

It's always been his pattern from babyhood that he has had periods of time where lots of aspects of his life are difficult for him, then things get better for an extended period of time, then back to difficult again. I intend to make it a goal of mine to
1. Better predict when a "low period" is coming
2. Recognize it when it's here
3. Come up with strategies to use that will help him deal with the tough periods when they occur.
4. Help him to enjoy and acknowledge when he's enjoying success during his "good" periods.

I know I'm probably not making much sense, but I wanted to get across in a nutshell what we've been dealing with over the past few months. Most of the time, life goes on as relatively peaceful and normal. We enjoy the same activities many families do. Unfortunately, there are those times when we go into crisis mode. Our entire lives are colored by Sam's difficulties at school. I spend nearly every waking hour (and some non-waking!) trying to think outside the box about how we can learn to live with the challenges that Asperger's Syndrome brings, and not let it define our lives.